Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Are motherless brides more likely to elope?

I've been wondering -- are motherless brides more likely to elope or minimize the idea of having a wedding out of sadness from not having their mother with them? What are your thoughts and experiences?

Saturday, May 11, 2013

Motherless Mothers Day

Motherless Mother's Day - a meaningful term coined by Hope Edelman in attribution to a day most motherless daughter's and brides may secretly dread; a day Hallmark won't allow us to forget. 

To me, the term begs the missing adjective that precedes every well wishing milestone we celebrate. "Happy birthday"; "Merry Christmas"; "Speedy recovery". What can we wish each other on "Motherless Mother's Day"? 

Peace in reconciling our deepest loss? Security in knowing that we are loved and cherished even if our mother's can't affirm that through her words or assuring touch? 

Based on her 2012 Mother's Day blog entry, Hope Edelman would likely say a "grateful mother's day"...Finding that silver lining that embellishes our grief and loss through the ways it has shaped us. 

I think I'll cling to that sliver of optimism. 

I'm thankful for the people who have come into my life to help me grieve. Thankful for a man who loves me in the midst of frequent tears. Thankful for Hope's assuring words -- 

"It gets better. Truly, it does."